When someone is impatient and says, “I haven’t got all day,” I always wonder, How can that be? How can you not have all day? – George Carlin
We all at times try to jam too much into every moment feeling irritated when the world isn’t fitting our timing. It truly feels like 24 hours isn’t enough and we just don’t have enough time. We get many opportunities to be aware of our impatience, be it the traffic jam when your late for work or an appointment, or the chatty checkout person at the grocery store, or trying to get your family to an event on time. It can sometimes feel like you’ll burst if things don’t go how you planned. We’ve all experienced these occurrences and impatience has become apart of our modern culture.
The Speed of Technology has increased our impatience by allowing us to get instant responses to questions any time of day or night and it has distorted our perception of time. We can google the internet and instantly receive a multitude of answers. What it hides is that it took multiple people time and expertise to create those answers. When we email, text, call people, we expect them to respond with the same speed as the internet. We don’t even recognize that time is required for them to respond. Since we want the answer now, their response should come now too. The affect in our everyday life is that we believe we have to be hooked to technology 24/7, if not we won’t keep up. We’ll miss something important. We’re like young children who don’t want to sleep because they think they’ll miss something and that means we won’t have the perfect life. If we just move faster and work harder, then we think we’ll find that elusive happiness. Instead, just like children, we get worn down, fussy and reactive. Then our impatient side takes over, because our list never gets done and happiness gets pushed back for another day.
The speed of technology intensifies our sense of urgency. If someone seems to lack a sense of urgency we judge them. This is especially seen in the work place where managers mistakenly perceive a lack of urgency to be a lack of commitment. Maybe they don’t care enough and don’t get the importance of the priorities.
Impatience creates chaos for us and those around us. Now is our time to remember we are humans not machines.
Our lives seem to be getting faster, more challenging, and more uncertain. Impatient ways of being can become even more jarring when you’re in the middle of change. Life rarely is predictable and doesn’t happen in sequential ways. Creation can be messy and impatience can make the journey much harder than it needs to be.
Here’s a suggestion: treat your life like a garden. Pause for a moment and think about gardening. When you’re planning a garden, it takes time to select what you want to grow, you have to prepare the soil, plant the seeds, weed and water your plants and wait for them to bring forth the produce or flowers you desired. The very nature of a garden is uncertainty, risk, and PATIENCE. Rarely do you find an impatient person wanting to grow a vegetable or rose garden. You can’t make a plant grow a tomato when you want it and how you want it. Nature just doesn’t work that way.
In the ABC TV series, Modern Family we have an easy example of how impatience plays out in ways we can all relate to. We like this series because they help us laugh at our own recognizable foibles.
In one of this season’s episodes called “Manny Get Your Gun”, all three families are playing out impatience in humorous ways. It’s Manny’s birthday and three families are running late and trying to get to his party on time. It’s funny to see how all the members of the Pritchett family are the ones running around pushing their family to get moving or else they’ll be late. It’s easy to see this is a family pattern of impatience. What’s humorous is how each of their family members react to their time demands. Some get rattled and others are just not going to try and keep up with their pace. We get to see how the more they push, the more chaos is created all around them. It’s funny because at times, we all react to events as the Prichett and Dunphy families do.
We suggest you watch this episode and become aware of your own impatient streak. Watch this episode called “Manny Get Your Gun”. We turned it into an Alignment Process session.
8 Ways To Deal With Your Impatient Tendencies
- Establish a daily practice spending a minimum of five minutes in quiet contemplation. That could be a short walk, a moment with no technology, standing under the shower, or taking care of your pets. During this time, give yourself a neutral focus, to give the mind something to do
- Establish hours when you’re available and when you’re not. Schedule your down time, just like you do your work time and bless yourself with that time – you’ll be more productive for it
- Your impatience may be telling you it time for rest and that you’re stretched way too thin. Exhaustion has impatient side effects.
- Pay attention to your self talk – especially when driving.
- Notice if your trying to force outcomes, practice going with the flow
- Maybe you’re taking life too seriously, find something that makes you laugh
- Notice what you’ve done for yourself lately, it might be that you’re not respecting your own human needs
- Check and see if you’re being intolerant of your own process and of others.
How To Benefit From This Alignment Process TV Show?
- You only need to do the Intention Session once and then you can energetically benefit from any movie/TV session on our blogs or that are currently on our website(s). It’s like downloading an app – it’s that simple.
- Watch the entire Modern Family episode of Many Get Your Gun. If you fall asleep (which sometimes occurs), just go back to the part where you snoozed and watch again. If you’ve already seen this movie, you have to watch it again to get the energetic benefits.
- If you notice relief in the subsequent days, please pass this blog to someone you know who might appreciate some assistance. If you’re so inspired to like us on our Facebook page or Google+ – we welcome the love!