Welcome to our five part series on discovering tolerance. We created this series to assist with interpersonal relationships. Inevitably our emotional “stuff” gets stirred when we engage with others and begin the process of connecting at deeper levels.
These alignment movies will assist you in making a shift to more tolerance in your life. More tolerance for yourself, your loved ones, your co-workers, your roommates and anyone you’ve attracted in your life.
More tolerance ultimately means more peace of mind for you.
Before you can begin to experience true heart connections with others, it’s important that you address the inner conflict between how you see your self, with how others want you to be, and the self-talk of who you think you should be.
If this sounds challenging, no worries – these alignment movies will help you make a profound shift to more tolerance with grace and ease.
Remember, the journey to peace of mind is an inside job. So is the journey to discovering tolerance. It’s not the other people in your life that are responsible for how you feel or for your reactivity. It’s also not their job to change – the first step is yours to take.
The characters in our first movie give us great examples of how we learn from each other.
Who better to teach us than the Odd Couple (Gene Saks 1968)?
The Odd Couple is based on the Neil Simon play about two recently divorced bachelors, Felix Unger (Jack Lemmon) and Oscar Peterson (Walter Matthau).
These two friends have been playing poker together for years. When Felix’s wife asks for a divorce, Oscar generously invites Felix to live in his apartment.
We all know the story:
Felix is obsessive about keeping the house clean, loves to cook, and is persnickety about everything. He can’t relax until his environment is in perfect order.
Oscar is the other extreme. His apartment is a mess, disorganized, and it doesn’t bother him at all. He goes with the flow and doesn’t get too worked up over pesky details like a broken refrigerator. It all can wait.
Each man is a perfect reflection for the other to see the change needed. Because these patterns are at the extreme, each is perfectly annoyed with the other.
This is the divine curriculum.
If you have someone in your life that creates a reactive charge within, see him or her as your teacher.
Felix and Oscar will show you the following 5 steps to better relationships.
1) Make an Effort To Change
Notice how both Felix and Oscar are unaware that it is time to change. It’s the contrast of their way of being that gets the awareness stirred. At this point, many of us get so frustrated that we just shut down or try to avoid the person.
Felix and Oscar don’t have that luxury because they’re living together.
If you have a reactive interdependent relationship like Felix and Oscar’s there’s a gift of awareness about yourself waiting to be discovered. Otherwise, you wouldn’t have attracted this personality into your life.
So accept them as your divine teacher and be willing to change. Do it for you, for your own growth and peace of mind.
2) Judgment Distracts Us From Tolerance
Our minds love to judge everything as right or wrong, good or bad. The Odd Couple helps us see how the judgments of each other keep us stuck and hold us back from growth. When we see the other person as the problem, we spend an inordinate amount of time looking for the clues where they went wrong and where we are right.
Judgment causes us to get stuck in our thinking and limits our ability to come from the heart.
When we realize that diversity is the spice of life and all ways of being are valid, then we make another shift to deeper tolerance for others and ourselves.
3) Stop Complaining About People Who Annoy You
It’s common for most of us to complain about our teachers. We just don’t want to accept that he or she’s challenging ways are perfect for us. So we go around complaining to everyone about how annoying that person is. We look for confirmation that she’s the problem, not ourselves.
If you catch yourself complaining realize you’re spinning your wheels and the path to peace of mind will just take more time.So what are you to do?
Just stop complaining.
4) Don’t Quit Too Early
For many of us, we just try to avoid people we don’t agree with or whose mannerisms we find annoying. If you’re truly desiring more tolerance in your life, don’t give up on these people and quit too early.
Sure, there comes a time when a relationship either changes or it doesn’t work anymore. Unfortunately, many of us give up too soon. We judge whether someone is worth the trip based on whether we find him or her annoying.
For anyone seeking more tolerance in their life stay curious with these people that give you a charge and don’t give up until you understand what it is within you that wants to change.
5) The Personal Growth Is Worth The Trip
It sure can be annoying when you realize it’s you that has to change. But remember, once you make the shift, it allows the other person to do the same.
This is a magic formula that works every time.
When you realize that you can find peace by changing within, there’s a deep awareness of a growing inner freedom. No longer will people trip you up and when they do, you’ll do your own work to shift these patterns.
Because of this heightened awareness, a new self-mastery will emerge. You’ll begin to feel a heart opening and start to gain new awareness of how compassion and love feels.
If you just get a whiff of what we’re describing you’ll realize the path to tolerance is definitely worth the trip.
You’ll have less inner conflict, less judgments, and more equanimity.
The Top 8 Key Energetic Benefits from The Odd Couple Alignment Movie
- An ability to be more patient and flexible with how you think others should behave.
- A letting go of stubbornness that gets in the way of your own self-development.
- Being okay with people’s quirky tendencies.
- Letting go of always trying to control yourself and your environment.
- An ability to live in the moment and try new experiences.
- A releasing of self-sabotaging tendencies that prevent you from having fun.
- A shift towards less seriousness and more playfulness.
- More tolerance for those that annoy you.
The Steps To Energetically Benefit from This Alignment Session:
- If you haven’t done the Intention Session, then do this first and only once. Think of it as downloading an App on your smartphone. Once completed then you’re ready to benefit from any of our Alignment movies/TV shows.
- Rent and watch the entire movie: The Odd Couple
- If you notice a shift in the subsequent days, please pass this blog to someone you know who might appreciate it.
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