In Search of Tolerance: Part 3: Five Ways To Be More Respectful

 

Are you ready to go deeper on this journey to tolerance?

Lets review what we’ve already covered so far. Don’t worry – if you missed any of the blogs, there’s plenty of time to go back and review.

We started out this series by laying the foundation for tolerance by providing The Steps to Better Relationships. In our last post we turned the discussion to How To Be More Civil.

Each Alignment Session in this series will take you closer to heart-centered relationships in your personal and business life. By watching the featured movie/TV shows, you’re tangibly making a shift towards more tolerance.

So now lets return to our master teachers, Oscar and Felix for tips on how to be more respectful.

In this episode called, The Hideaway, Oscar has offered to help college football star Ernie Wilson land a lucrative contract with the big time football league. Oscar has been following Ernie’s career at Alaska A&M and feels responsible for discovering him.

He also sees an opportunity to pick up a 10% commission once he lands the right deal.

Felix is suspect of Oscar’s motives and doesn’t approve of his intentions until he learn that Ernie is thought to be a gifted cellist.

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Oscar and Felix get side tracked in humorous ways that provide tips on how each of us can be more respectful in all of our relationships.

1) Awareness Leads To Respect

As you watch this episode, Oscar and Felix’s interactions with Ernie could be seen as lacking awareness of what Ernie really needs. Of course it’s just a light-hearted comedy, but it works from a teachable point of view. Because most of us move so fast with our interactions with each other that we forget to be mindful and considerate.

If you genuinely desire to be more respectful in your relationships, you have to improve your awareness and consciously choose respect and respond accordingly to others in the moment. As Krishnamurti writes,

“Let’s be aware not only of the words and their significance but also of our own responses, our own interpretations, how we receive, accept, or react.”

It’s the intentional desire to come from the heart – always – that inspires respectful mindfulness.

2) Be Mindful of Humor

Felix thinks he’s funny with all his Eskimo jokes. He’s really just trying to be clever and doesn’t mean any harm or ridicule.

We’ve all done this before – whether we know it or not.

To be more respectful in relationships means we mindfully choose civil behavior as if we were meeting a great teacher. Inappropriate comments are usually a cheap attempt at being humorous at the expense of others. At times it can simply be social anxiety that sparks the joke. It’s a type of reactivity that unknowingly pushes people away

Only through mindfulness can we catch this type of reactivity with others and come from respect with our humor. 

3) Watch out For Blind Certainty

Sometimes we make snap assumptions about who we think people really are. These can be judgments, qualifications, and comparisons that we’re certain are truth.

When we’re convinced we have figured someone out it blinds us to truth. And we miss out on making connections with others.

So take your time with people and remain aware of your judgments.

4) Let Go of Erroneous Images of Others

At other times, we project our desires and wishes for who we hope someone is. These false images distort reality and can become a source of conflict later down the road.

Notice how thrilled Felix is to learn that Ernie is purported to be highly skilled Cellist. He immediately takes action to support Ernie in making this decision to follow his dream of playing in an orchestra. Whose dream is it? Ernie’s or is Felix projecting his image of a dream life onto Ernie?

Sometimes we just hope people are someone they really aren’t. We prop up these self-created images and expect them to live up to our projection.

When you accept people as they are now, then you’re embodying a deeper level of respect.

5) Collaboration Provides Clarity

Felix and Oscar are not only good friends, by they’re good partners. Both genuinely want to help Ernie launch his career. The more they work together and collaborate, they discover the best way to support Ernie.

Sometimes we need others to help us see facets in people we can’t see. In your business and personal life, cultivate a willingness to collaborate with others when it comes to making people decisions.

The Top 7 Energetic Benefits from Watching The Odd Couple: The Hideaway

1. A releasing of any cynicism about people’s motives
2. Aligning with the intent to be mindful with puns and humor with others.
3. An ability to catch yourself from minding other people’s business.
4. Accepting people for who they are.
5. Letting go of making quick assumptions about people.
6. A willingness to collaborate with others when making decisions about people and what’s best for them
7. A letting go of erroneous images you have of others and accept them as they are.

The Steps To Energetically Benefit from This Alignment Session:

1. If you haven’t done the Intention Session, then do this first and only once. Think of it as downloading an App on your smartphone. Once completed then you’re ready to benefit from any of our Alignment movies/TV shows.
2. Watch The Odd Couple: The Hideaway available online for free. Hulu has made this available. Click Here for episode. 
3. If you notice a shift in the subsequent days, please pass this blog to someone you know who might appreciate it.

Ready To Align Deeper With Tolerance?
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The heart is the source of our individual life force. It’s the wellspring of joy and when we’re in alignment, we have inner balance and peace of mind. This alignment creates a new set point for the individual that’s sustained. A type of joy emanates from your heart that creates the life you’ve always desired.

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